When you were a child, your big feelings weren’t safe to have. They had to be stopped, managed, eliminated. Your body learned: emotions are emergencies that threaten connection. So now when YOUR child has big feelings, your body doesn’t think “they’re processing, they’re learning, this will pass.” Your body thinks: “MAKE IT STOP. FIX IT NOW. THEIR UPSET THREATENS MY SAFETY.” That urgency flooding your body? That’s not bad parenting. That’s your nervous system doing exactly what it was trained to